I was recently emailed by a friend--who (like me) grew up with specific notions and ideas. Some may say they're outdated, but I find them timeless. There is something about hand writing a thank you note when you receive a gift, or are welcomed into someones home. There is something about a gentleman who opens the door for you, walks beside you--not in front and not behind, and insists on giving you a coat when he sees you're cold. There is something about a hostess gift, a kind word just because, or even a handwritten note or card just because.
But I digress. My friend and her boyfriend attended 7 Weddings This Summer...and have received 1 Thank You Note for their 100+ dollar gifts. As her email said: "I think it is interesting because I don't consider myself traditional, but I do think there are simple forms of common courtesy that are dying and young people don't think they matter. Yet It Does. Another thing, to add to the ridiculousness of this, in some cases I bought bachelorette gifts, bridal shower gifts, helped with their wedding (programs, took presents to the reception), and still no thank you note."
This email from my friend literally caused my jaw to drop. I suppose because it is so foreign to me. But also because it is such a slap in the face to my friend. When I was in PCH's wedding this summer and she was extremely prompt with her thank you notes. It was nice to know that she appreciated what I had picked out for her, she appreciated my presence at the shower, and that she has fabulous manners (and gorgeous stationary).
As a child, when I would receive birthday or Christmas gifts, or gifts just because, my parents would not allow me to play with them until I hand wrote a thank you note...and they expected each and every thank you note to be unique. I plan on doing the same thing when I have children. Even today, I try (though school, and life, sometimes gets in the way) to write a prompt thank you note when I receive gifts...this year at my Birthday Party I put personal notes in the party favor bags to cover my bases, because I knew post my birthday, life was about to get crazy busy--Emily Post would pry frown at this...but it's better than nothing.
Am I in the wrong here...or just the minority? When did a quick text or email become appropriate as a Thank You, or even worse, when did not thanking someone become par...? Is an email thank you note acceptable (I personally shudder at evites to weddings)? Or am are Thank You Notes completely Outdated...and should I have a Stationary Burning Party?