Some things are better with age: wine, scotch, furniture, toddlers leaving the 'terrible twos'... Some things aren't.
I met Doc when I was about 21. He had just gotten a job at UNMC as a certain type of surgeon. After running into him a few times at a local coffee shop, I agreed to go out with him.
I knew the basics--he was a _____surgeon, 30 years old, where he grew up, where he went to undergrad, med school, did his residency, and fellowship. He liked spicy food, red wine, running, reading, and me. To say I was flattered would be an understatement.
For a month and a half dating Doc was fabulous. We'd see each other a few times a week, going out to (amazing) dinners, having cocktails, shopping, etc. He was charming, intelligent, considerate, a total gentleman, and always wanted to make sure I was happy.
We were having dinner at M's Pub (one of my favorite restaurants) and I had just turned 21, so getting carded, and actually having my own ID was pretty sweet... Doc ordered wine, and I ordered a berry infused vodka on the rocks (my favorite drink there). And I got carded--because the waiter thought I was underage (now that seems like a compliment)--Doc being sarcastic--asked the waiter how old he thought he was--the waiter answered 30, and proceeded to check Doc's id--exclaiming 'Man, I was WRONG.'
As aforementioned, Doc was 30. Right!? Wrong.
4 years of college, 1 gap year, 4 years of medical school, 1 year internship, 4 year residency, 2 year fellowship, 2 years to sub specialize. In case math isn't your strong suit--that is 18 years.
Doc was 18 when he went to college. 18+18=36...and he had celebrated a summer birthday. 37 years old. Though that may not seem so bad now--when I was 21 that was 16 years older than me. Doc was closer in age to my dad than to me--GROSS.
Suffice to say, Doc and I didn't go out much after that--between the dishonesty on his part--which he admitted--the huge gap in age didn't quite do it for me.
Do you think I did the right thing? What has someone you've dated failed to tell you? Was it a deal breaker for you? What's the biggest age gap you've ever dated?